Feb 3, 2008

It's a brother-sister thing


I have one brother and when we were kids I considered him to be my BFF. He is three years older and always made me feel like his only job was to protect and hang out with me...ALL OF THE TIME! I truly was that annoying little sister who tagged along every where. And never once did he complain. I'm sure that there were times when he would beg my parents to keep me behind, but always in the end my brother would always ask me to join and I would always say yes. He was my best friend and the person I asked all the important questions of regarding alcohol, drugs, sex...the minor stuff. If I was sad, my brother would listen and give advice...and usually would threaten somebody to fix what was messed up.

As we became adults, my brother married and began living his own life. The adult version of my brother was extremly opposite from the boy that I grew up with. Our opposing political beliefs caused constant friction and opened the door for other traits to become more and more annoying. Yet he still my brother, my family and I will always love him. I have questioned where the boy I knew went and have worried that I would never see him again. And then this weekend he reappeared at the perfect moment. I spent time with him yesterday and he gave advice, smiled and asked if there was anything else he could do. And today I was dropping off my niece and we decided to have a quick drink. I sat across a table listening to his stories of family, work and play. And then he stopped talking, looked across the table and smiled. And at that moment we were kids again and I had my BFF back! So today, I will take that moment and accept that we do have different beliefs as adults. I know that he loves me and will always be my big brother whose priority is to love and protect.

5 comments:

MB said...

I'm so glad you guys had that moment - I know you've been hoping for that for a long time...

The Lady Who Doesn't Lunch: said...

Going out for drinks is the glue that holds my family together.

Seriously though, sounds like a great and much needed moment you had together ;)

Suze said...

It's nice to reconnect. I'm glad for you.

Queeny said...

That's a sweet story. I don't talk to my only brother much; we usually just ask about each other when we talk to our mom. But, when we see each other, it's always like old times. And we always, always speak around the holidays.

I'm so happy you and yours had a chance to reconnect.

Kelly O said...

AAAWWW!! That's lovely. My son and daughter are best friends right now, too. I hope it stays that way forever.

I agree with the lunch lady: liquor is the social lubricant that is essential for familial closeness. At least with some family members.